Tuesday, November 18, 2008

Pedestals are bad, mmmkay

I've been answer the question lately why guys have a tendency to put women up on a pedestal. For those that don't know what that means, it's generally treating women like a delicate flower, a princess if you will, and involves lots and lots of supplication and generally wussy behavior that typically turns the woman off. 

Why men tend to do this is really simple. The short version of why guys do this is comes down to a few simple reasons:

A) Social programming. From the time we're little kids girls are given a free pass for lots of stuff because "girls are made from sugar and spice and all things nice", we're taught they're "the fairer sex", never hit a woman, open doors, pay for dates, blah blah blah.

B) We're wired to value looks so if a woman is attractive we assign value to them from the get-go. This tends to raise their value in respect to our own as males and by default the guys think they're lower value and automatically the woman is looked up to from a value perspective.

C) It's taboo to think women are just as horny as guys and have as much sex (really it's way more than guys), and that they can do no wrong sexually as all are sweet, innocent, virginal princesses.

All in all, treat women no differently than you'd treat your friends. They're human and just as cool as everyone else in your life. No better. No worse. Think of women from that perspective instead of looking up to them on the pedestal you place them and you'll find you have much better relationships because of it. 

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