When PUAs Annoy

Here is a very simple method for getting rid of guys that try hitting on your girlfriend, wife, or date when you're with them:

"Hey man, where's your girlfriend tonight?"
Or
"Hey man, I bet your girlfriend is a total hottie, right?"

He has two choices:

A) He's a loser and doesn't have one
B) He says he's got a gf

If A... To your girl, "Oh, oh! We should set him up with one of your friends!" To the guy, "Here, give me your number and I'll give you a call sometime. We can double date! ... Cool. It was nice meeting you." (take the girl by the hand and walk away)

If B... "Ha! Check this guy out. He's a pimp. He's got his gf at home while he's out here spitting game. Play on playa!" (take the girl by the hand and walk away)

Text Game

I've been really going nuts with text game lately putting a lot of effort into getting it down. Here are my rules thumb I've developed thus far:

Ground Rules:

Keep it light, fun, & flirty

Slowly go sexual

Seed the D2

Don't drag text convos on for too long.

Don't expect a reply. Send it out and go about your daily activities.

Always be the one to end it, having her text last.

My current SOP:

1) Be memorable
Do something ballsy on the spot when getting the number. Shortly after I get a number I'll text her something cocky funny such as "OMG! Who is that sexy guy you're talking to?! Quick, get his number before he leaves!"


2) Reopen
When following up in a day or 2 I first send a quick fun non-sequitor to get a fun & flirty vibe established. Here are some examples of what I'm talking about:

• I think I'm pregnant.
• I'm out hunting dinosaurs. What are you doing?
• KABOOM! POW!
• The canary is back in the cage. We're meeting Red at six.
• Did you do that that thing at the place? I'm still waiting for the gift.
• Pull out. Eagle 2 is back.
• Aliens are coming to abduct all the good looking sexy ass people! You will be safe, I'm just texting to say goodbye.
• Why'd you have to give your mom my phone number…? She won't quit calling me now…
• I miss you & want to see you, but this dumb security guard won't let me in the zoo. Is there any way you can escape?
• I just met your twin. – She’s just like you, she won’t stop grabbing my ass / asking me out
• I'm naked...quit day-dreaming!
• You know what I love about you? I feel so smart when I'm around you
• What's cuter, a pony the size of a kitten, or a kitten the size of a pony?
• If I was a pickup artist, you'd so be mine!
• I can’t sleep. Stop snoring so loud
• Is that you right now in my tree again? The neighbors are going to call the cops on you, and I’m not bailing you out this time. I warned you about this type of behavior!
• I'm going to lure girls back to my house with candy. Do you prefer skittles or M&Ms?
• Gorgeous, funny, charming, and lovable... Well enough about me, how are you doing?
• Hey, remember how I’m psychic? Clean out those dirty thoughts of me in your head, I’m with my family…
• Stop undressing me with your eyes.
• I have a question hon. Can you handle an honest compliment? – Good, so can I. You go first
• I was just at the beach and I saw a fish. It reminded me of you

FYI, the lines came from this thread:
http://www.stylelife.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=55995


3) Follow up
Take their answer or reply and send back something funny and don't be afraid to bust on them a bit. However, you need to snip & stack to get things moving forward quickly, otherwise the vibe may stall.


4) Logistics
Seed the D2 or follow-up plans if we already time-bridged.


5) Pacing
Generally speaking I try to take as long as they do to reply. If it takes them an hour or two to reply, then I do the same. It's a good way of matching interest levels and not coming across as needy. The goal is to convey the subtext of always being busy without saying you are. Just make them wait. Never text back immediately even if you aren't busy. Wait about 10 minutes anyway. If they are taking longer then that to respond, again, wait the amount of time they took (within reason) to respond. All that being said, you may need to answer back quickly in the beginning if THEY ARE REPLYING QUICKLY. If they take the slow boat then you should too.


6) Know when to stop
If they text more and more and start trying to have a conversation then just call. Too much is lost in texting. At least with a phone call you can be quick, hear the tone and pacing of their voice, etc. Finish up what needs to be said and get off the damn thing.

Attraction

Attraction is the very thing nice guys the world over don't understand. They feel that by becoming friends first, getting to know the hotties, then think they can build a relationship. Naturally as soon as they make a move they get the "lets just be friends" speech, or some iteration thereof. There's a reason for this: the women aren't attracted.

Attraction isn't a choice, as the saying goes. And without attraction if you get comfortable with women you end up "just friends", and as many guys know that usually involves being sexually frustrated if you're attracted to the women in this stereotypically situation. How do you fix that? The answer is simple: build attraction first. I know what you're thinking, "But you just said attraction isn't a choice, so how I get her attracted?" That my friends is the "secret" I'm focusing on today.

Attraction comes in a couple varieties, namely the deep emotional attraction that makes women love and the light and fleeting attraction of buying temperature spikes. Both are required to get women attracted and interested.

BT spiking is critical for getting quick compliance and being fun. The goal is a feeling if elation and will make women (temporarily) want you to stay. This is also bad in a sense because you can become dancing monkey if you don't move things foward.

The traditional attraction switches espoused by being "alpha" are what will keep women over the long run.

For the ladies...

Here's my short short version of relationship management for the women out there. If you really want a simple outline to follow for keeping your man happy and not stray:

1. Stay sexy. Don't let yourself go because "you're comfortable". It's a copout and a weak excuse for laziness.
2. Get your knees dirty. If you're satisfying your man at home then he won't have any reason to stray in order to have his *needs* fulfilled. It's that simple. And following Step 1 ensures he'll want to keep having sex with you.
3. Stop acting like a man. Emasculating your man through things like trying to take charge, belittling him, etc are all big turnoffs for most guys. Sure, there are some who are into that dom-submis fetish thing, but most guys aren't. And do you know what's a sub-category of that type of behavior? Nagging. No guy I've ever met enjoyed it. If you want us to shut down and start looking elsewhere then by all means nag nag nag.

That's it ladies, that's all there is to it. If you follow those 3 simple steps you'll find relationship bliss. Men will bend over backwards to please you night and day if you do the above. And if you're one of the stereotypical women that sits at home all day watching TV, this definitely applies to you. Trust me when I say this, because your man is thinking these very same things, but he's afraid to say them. I'll take the flak so they don't have to. Follow the above and it'll save you a ton of money on the therapists (or worst case: lawyers). All you have to do is put down the bon-bons, turn off Oprah or Judge Judy, have sex regularly-as in about once a day, and get your jiggly butts in the gym.

The fact of the matter is a LOT of the guys out there that are thinking the same things to an extent, but are just afraid to say it. That's partly why so many relationships fail. People are so caught up in being PC they can't speak their mind. Couple that with our culture where males have been programmed to think their own wants and needs should come second to their woman's and you're going to have problems.

The only way relationships can go the distances is if both parties are satisfied. Once upon a time that was the case. Granted it was usually the women putting in the work to make that happen, but with the advent of feminism women have shirked off that traditional role and it's now every person for themselves.

Until we strike a balance, both genders are going to suffer in the long term relationship department. What's worse is how western culture only holds that woman should be the ones satisfied, even if it comes at the expense of the man's well being. It's like some warped and misguided form of gender reparations.

Don't get me wrong, everyone is entitled to their opinion and you're more than welcome to support the kind of paradigm we're currently socialized with, but don't think for a second everyone else is going to go along with it. There are plenty of guys out there like myself who aren't going stand for it. The reason for this: I'm actually for equality and mutual satisfaction. And I have the statistics to back it up. In fact, I contend it's the status quo that's frakked up right now. And if anyone wants to debate me, first just take a look at those divorce rates.

Give this a listen to, particularly the advice given around the 17 minute mark:
http://www.myprops.org/content/Are-You-That-Guy/

UPDATE:
Even CNN is even getting in on the action. They have 9 steps to keeping a relationship going:

http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/personal/06/25/h.keep.marriage.healthy/index.html

Notice points 1, 3, and 4. Sound familiar? They should. I just told you to do the same in a more succinct way.

Coming Soon: Attraction, Comfort, and moving in between

I've been out in the field getting things worked out for myself. I've also started teaching workships in the DC/Metro region for the under 21 crowd and community newbies. Once I get some free time I'll collect my thoughts and get them posted. Until then I'll leave you with this nugget of wisdom:

Don't hold back. If you think a woman is sexy, then say so! Don't be afraid to get physical and dominate. At worst you do or say something and she walks off; at best she playfully swats you and it's on like Donkey Kong. Either way you're no worse off than if you were timid Mr Nice Guy to begin with that most definitely wasn't generating attraction anyway.