Wednesday, June 12, 2013

The Bell Curve

Life operates on a bell curve. On one end there are women who are attracted right off the bat and on the other end there are girls that no matter what you say or do you'll never be seen as attractive and won't have a shot with them. The bulk of women fall somewhere between these two ends of the spectrum. 

Naturals and a lot of PUAs do what I would describe as not having good game, but are good at screening & finding the women who are their type so they get laid quicker and more often. When you zoom out and start looking at the bigger picture, that bulk of women that fall somewhere in the middle of that bell curve, good game IMO is what lets you get them. AFC Adam once said something similar to all of this in that everyone is only attractive up to a certain point and to "punch above your weight" you'll need to have solid game. Typically game will only let you get women about 1 point of SMV higher than yourself. Really tight game may get you a 2 point bump. Using the number system if you're a 7 then you'll usually pull 7s and below. You'll need good game to get 8s and ultra-tight good game to get 9s. So where does the bell curve fit in? 

A) Game lets you get women who you're NOT naturally attractive for

B) There are woman out there who will be naturally attracted to you for whatever reason, so with them you don't even have to run game really, you just have to not fuck it up 

That guy who is a 7 may be an 8 or 9s perfect guy for some reason and may not need much game to get them. It happens once in a while, as in the Marisa Tomei/George Constanza sense. However, that's an extremely rare occurrence from what I've experienced personally, which is why screening is so important, mainly so you're not fighting an uphill battle all the time, or worse, barking up the wrong tree with women who are just never going to be into you for whatever reason. 

Don't get me wrong, learning to tell if a woman is into you or not isn't exactly easy, and it does take a bit of experience to get this down. This is why solid game is still a necessity as far as I'm concerned. 

Now the bad news. A good deal of the women who are naturally attracted to you YOU won't be interested in them. In my case I've learned that the ones who naturally are interested are most often one of the following:

  • Jailbait
  • Daddy issues
  • Unattractive/big girls
  • Taken (as in a relationship either with a bf or husband)

There are still the rare instances of women I'm interested in being interested in me, and one of the hottest women I ever pulled, turns out she actually pulled me exactly because of this dynamic. The down side is that was over 10 years ago, that's how rare the good ones can be. Luckily I ran into my current girlfriend and we had a similar mutual attraction. 

The silver lining in all of this is that you can improve your SMV by changing things about yourself and improve the threshold on that bell curve where you include more women who will find you naturally attractive. I noticed years ago that the better shape I get in the more women I'm naturally attractive to. And what's nice is that the more women who are attracted to you, the more women you are interested in will start becoming available to you. The same improvement can come from dressing well, driving a nicer car, better posture, and all of the other things that display positive attributes about yourself.

The downside is that there are some of us (the lucky 10%) who will have a much higher percentage of women who women will naturally be attracted to them, whereas some may in fact have a higher percentage of women that will never be attracted to them, AND have a smaller pool of women who are naturally attracted. Life isn't fair. All you can really do is improve yourself so that you have more women naturally attracted and to shift the indifferent ones towards you. Both are my goals, but I think for too long I, like many others, have been fighting the uphill battle of trying to get the ones who are indifferent. Instead we should be focusing on the easier aspect and make more women naturally attracted and screen those women instead. This just makes the most sense in my opinion. 

And yes, good looks and being fit are massive benefits when it comes to women finding you naturally attractive. Looks do matter and if you're good looking you're green section of the curve will bigger than someone who's not. Again, life isn't fair. All you can do is work with what you've got and improve where you can.