This post is directed squarely at men thinking about getting married. I strongly recommend reading the following site. It's a great primer on what you'll face with Marriage 2.0 given the current legal climate and the anti-male bias that's so prevalent in Family Courts.
http://dontmarry.wordpress.com
If you've read all that and you still think you'll want to get married some day, I STRONGLY recommend waiting until you're well into your 30s. Here's why: men in their 30s with a good job, and stays in shape, is pretty much the equivalent attractiveness to women as the big tittied 19 year old blond bombshell is to most guys.
Most people have no clue how the paradigm flip-flops as we age. The broad strokes are that guys get more attractive while women get less attractive. This is nature in action. Women are generally attracted to the hallmarks of a good provider and protector. In the modern world that translates to status and power, which typically goes up for men as they age. Meanwhile men are attracted to the hallmarks of fertility, which goes down as women age. By the mid 30s the whole attraction paradigm flips. Women hit the wall and guys suddenly find women hitting on them more than ever, especially the women their own age on up who are making a last ditch effort to find a quality guy while they still can.
Ask yourselves something and be honest: why settle for an aging 30something when you can just as easily get a good 20something who's in all likelihood going to be much better looking, have more energy, less baggage like kids and an ex or three, not to mention a far lower partner count? I think the real reason guys settle for shrews, abusive women, women with loads of baggage, and so on is because most guys just lack the game necessary to have options and better prospects. Follow my advice, Roissy/Heartiste, Rollo Tomassi, Dalrock, Adam Lyons, and Athol Kay, and I can guarantee you'll have a much better sex life, and a more enriching life overall as you steer clear of the crazies and drama-filled chicks that will just give you grief down the line.
Sunday, December 9, 2012
Saturday, December 8, 2012
Back in Action
Took some time away from the blog since I didn't feel it added much to the community, but I can see that was a mistake as a lot of what I've been posting on various dating sites could use repeating. Expect more active entries from me in the future.
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Rating Women
Some people don't think rating women's looks is useful, but I still think it's got merit. I used to like the "would do, and brag; would do and keep quite; wouldn't do even if you paid me" method, but it doesn't really communicate the quality you regard the woman in terms of looks, presentation, character, or whatever. Instead of ranking girls on a scale of 1 to 10, I came up with this today because I needed something more granular to compare this one chick a few of us at work know to some celebrities a coworker named for reference. I put the girl at a 6.5 and my coworker put Mila Kunis at a 10, but to me she's an 8 or 8.5. He figured that meant that the girl we were talking about wasn't that far off from what he'd consider a 10, but in reality she way less attractive--in my book a 6 is a huge difference from an 8. On to the new system....
On a scale of 1-100 the girl I know was a 68 and Kunis is an 88 IMO. Imagine those like school grades with anything under a 60 "failing" (to be attractive at all).
Kunis = B+
Girl I know = D+
I think this is a much better way to articulate how we perceive one's qualities than a simple 1-10 rating.
90-100 = A
80-89 = B
70-79 = C
60-69 = D
1-59 = F
Also, if they're on the low end of a letter grade give them a minus (-) and if they're on the high end of a grade give them a plus (+).
On a scale of 1-100 the girl I know was a 68 and Kunis is an 88 IMO. Imagine those like school grades with anything under a 60 "failing" (to be attractive at all).
Kunis = B+
Girl I know = D+
I think this is a much better way to articulate how we perceive one's qualities than a simple 1-10 rating.
90-100 = A
80-89 = B
70-79 = C
60-69 = D
1-59 = F
Also, if they're on the low end of a letter grade give them a minus (-) and if they're on the high end of a grade give them a plus (+).
Thursday, August 19, 2010
Quick tips for getting started
I was asked today for some basic tips on how to get going in the community. Here's my short list of the best ways to get good without all the crap most guys get inundated with when starting out:
1. Stop reading, stop watching videos, and get out there and start approaching. 30 minutes a day is all it really takes, plus a few hours at a bar or club once a week. This translates to about 5-10 approaches a day, depending on how long you can keep things going with each woman you talk to. Only look stuff up online or read "PUA" forums when you get stuck or are having a problem diagnosing a sticking point.
2. Turn off your brain's verbal fliter and blurt out whatever it was you wanted to say, but are usually to self-conscious to say. Most of the stuff guys think, but don't say is great stuff and would be great cocky funny--and that's a good thing. Granted you'll still need to make sure the stuff you're saying is situationally acceptable. You can't just blurt out "Tits what?" in the middle of church, but if you're at a bar and mishear someone and it sounded like they said something about tits then go for it.
3. Push your boundaries. This kinda relates to the point above. Look at what you think your boundaries are, then take a giant step over that line. Guess what, you're still not even close. Take one more giant step past that line and you're starting to get close to where true boundaries reside. The point I'm trying to make is that you can usually get away with a lot more than most guys realize, and being bold, dominant, and aggressive is hugely attractive to women. They're far more likely to forgive a guy that moves too fast than a guy who doesn't make a move at all. In the former you might hear "whoa, slow down tiger!" and later on she'll be ready for that kind of stuff. In the latter case he gets the buddy hug at the end of the date, she tells her friend "He's nice, but there's no spark", and she calls up the first guy for a booty call.
In other words take risks. When you're learning YOU WANT TO GET BLOWN OUT!!!! That's the only way to really find out where the line is at. Once you've been going overboard like that then slowly ratchet things back. You'll become calibrated so much faster this way than slowly trying to push your boundaries inch by inch.
4. This point is going to reinforce #3.....YOU'LL NEVER SEE HER AGAIN. If you don't go for it now then the chance is probably lost forever. Also, YOU'LL NEVER SEE HER AGAIN! Who cares if you blow it and she doesn't give you her number. There's more where she came from. Don't be a pussy, have some balls and just go for it!
1. Stop reading, stop watching videos, and get out there and start approaching. 30 minutes a day is all it really takes, plus a few hours at a bar or club once a week. This translates to about 5-10 approaches a day, depending on how long you can keep things going with each woman you talk to. Only look stuff up online or read "PUA" forums when you get stuck or are having a problem diagnosing a sticking point.
2. Turn off your brain's verbal fliter and blurt out whatever it was you wanted to say, but are usually to self-conscious to say. Most of the stuff guys think, but don't say is great stuff and would be great cocky funny--and that's a good thing. Granted you'll still need to make sure the stuff you're saying is situationally acceptable. You can't just blurt out "Tits what?" in the middle of church, but if you're at a bar and mishear someone and it sounded like they said something about tits then go for it.
3. Push your boundaries. This kinda relates to the point above. Look at what you think your boundaries are, then take a giant step over that line. Guess what, you're still not even close. Take one more giant step past that line and you're starting to get close to where true boundaries reside. The point I'm trying to make is that you can usually get away with a lot more than most guys realize, and being bold, dominant, and aggressive is hugely attractive to women. They're far more likely to forgive a guy that moves too fast than a guy who doesn't make a move at all. In the former you might hear "whoa, slow down tiger!" and later on she'll be ready for that kind of stuff. In the latter case he gets the buddy hug at the end of the date, she tells her friend "He's nice, but there's no spark", and she calls up the first guy for a booty call.
In other words take risks. When you're learning YOU WANT TO GET BLOWN OUT!!!! That's the only way to really find out where the line is at. Once you've been going overboard like that then slowly ratchet things back. You'll become calibrated so much faster this way than slowly trying to push your boundaries inch by inch.
4. This point is going to reinforce #3.....YOU'LL NEVER SEE HER AGAIN. If you don't go for it now then the chance is probably lost forever. Also, YOU'LL NEVER SEE HER AGAIN! Who cares if you blow it and she doesn't give you her number. There's more where she came from. Don't be a pussy, have some balls and just go for it!
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